Advising Muslim men on the ‘correct way’ to discipline their spouses the sick Saudi doctor spouts about how women should be disciplined with handkerchiefs and toothpicks.Khaled Al-Saqaby appears in the ‘show’ which is put out on YouTube, which includes ‘dealing with wife beating’.
The four-minute footage begins with Mr Al-Saqaby telling men not to simply attack their wives, but discipline them properly,
His advised a three step process which goes from talking, to forsaking the wife in bed, to beating.
Speaking about some of the problems which may lead a man to beat his wife, he said women sometimes want equality.
He described this as a ‘very grave problem’.
Khaled Al-Saqaby gives advice on disciplining Muslim wives
Khaled Al-Saqaby said men should not use a big rod but a toothpick or handkerchief
The video is shot in woodland with the therapist in a bright white robe, perching on a tree stump.Talking about how Islamic men properly discipline women, he said: “I am aware that this issue is a thorny one which contains many hazards, but Allah willing we will cross this bridge safely.
“I believe the problem arises when husbands do not understand how to deal with disobedience. Some women disobey their husbands and make mistakes with them, and their husbands think this is due to inadequate treatment [of disobedience].
“The first step is to remind her of your rights and of her duties according to Allah. Then comes the second step – forsaking her in bed.
“Here some husbands make mistakes which might exacerbate the problem.”
Mr Al-Saqaby goes on to explain how men should remain sharing a bed with their wives but turn their back on them, rather than one of the couple sleeping in a different room or on the floor.He said a woman once told him that was the “most ingenious way to discipline a wife”.
Women have to understand the aim is to discipline. The necessary Islamic conditions for beating must be met
He said: “If the husband leaves the room it is easier for her than if he remains but turns his back to her or if he sleeps on the floor or vice versa.”
But if this does not work, men should beat their wives, he claims.
Mr Al-Saqaby said men should not ‘vent anger’ on women.
He said: “Women have to understand the aim is to discipline. The necessary Islamic conditions for beating must be met.
“The beating should not be performed with a rod, nor should it be a headband, or a sharp object which, I am sad to say, some husbands use.
“It should be done with something like the sewak tooth-cleaning twig or with a handkerchief, because the goal is to merely make the wife feel that she was wrong in the way she treated her husband.”
Khaled Al-Saqaby was filmed giving advice to Muslims on wife beating
Mr Al-Saqaby adds there are some situations where a wife may hit her husband because of the ‘faulty upbringing of some husbands’ who may have seen their fathers hit their wives and be ‘imitating their behaviour’.But he went on to call equality ‘a grave problem’ and said some women force beatings.
Khaled Al-Saqaby advised disciplining a wife with a toothpick